Q&A - Right Person, Wrong Time

Question:

Is it possible to meet the right person at the wrong time?

Answer:

When it comes to being in the right relationship with the right person, timing is everything. For a relationship to work, both partners have to be ready. You have to be spiritually, mentally, socially, emotionally, and physically ready. Having a strong spiritual foundation will help you discern if it’s the right time for you, as well as seeking the guidance of those closest to you. Getting guidance from your parents, mentors, older wise friends, and father of confession are crucial during this process.

Sometimes two people start a relationship prematurely (I see this a lot with teenagers) because they’re afraid they’ll lose the person they like to someone else. But trying to control the outcome of a situation is God’s job, not our. Trust that if this is the right person for you, it will happen at the right time. Trust that God wouldn’t give your future spouse to someone else.

If you do meet someone who you think might be the one and are not ready to be in a relationship in your current stage in life, take it as an opportunity to form a friendship with them. When I first met my husband I was a freshman in college, and definitely not ready to be in a serious relationship. Neither did I know he was the one at the time. It wasn’t until three years later that we would start dating. It would have been the wrong time if we dated right away and tried planting a relationship that wasn’t ready to bloom.

I also know many people who met their spouses years before they were ready, and nothing happened between them then. But God brought that person back into their life at the right time. Trust in God’s timing, and be brave enough to let someone go if it’s not the right time for you.